“Balance is not something you find, it’s something you create,” – maybe you found this little piece of wisdom buried among dozens of quotes. But it has a singular depth of meaning when applied to Jiu Jitsu.
As a BJJ beginner, you’re probably still learning to tie your pants correctly, or even perfect techniques during your drills. However, a very important fundamental to being a BJJ student, is understanding your boundaries within your relationship with your coach.
Avoid Getting Too Personal
First and foremost, it’s important to remember that your coach is your teacher. Your coach must be regarded with a high level of respect and professionalism — the same authority reserved for all of the teachers in your life. Getting too personal with your coach should be avoided, unless he or she approaches you in a less formal setting first. Trust, loyalty, and dedication are all attributes that should be consistently built when you are a student of Jiu-Jitsu.
But just what does it mean to have a good relationship with your coach? It’s not just about respect. Building a good relationship is about being mindful of the group as a whole. Listening to your peers, lending a hand when necessary. Are you arriving on time? Being an attentive student? Are you practicing safely and to the best of your abilities? You can’t expect your coach to think highly of you if you come to class sporadically, and only put forth a small percentage of effort.
There is an Art in Silence
The biggest turn off in any martial art is the idea that you are undefeatable. Being humble, listening, and having an open mind are very important qualities to succeed in all sports, not to mention life in general. You have to trust your coach and to stay determined, because practice makes perfect, right?
The Truth Will Set You Free
Honesty is also another major factor in building the groundwork to the relationship with your coach. Say you’re having a really bad day, and your performance at training is a quarter of what it usually is. Letting your coach know things are not going so well will help him or her understand you better. Being vocal with your instructor is highly important for success in any situation. Some days will be weaker, some discouraging, and some painful (stretch!), but as long as you keep a positive attitude and open mind, staying honest with yourself and your coach, everything will gradually fall into place.
Last modified: October 11, 2017